Listen to what is truly going on
The first lesson in our Spiritual toolkit is to remember to stop, pause, breathe, and ask for help.
“Emotional uncertainty can cause great discomfort, and while the mind may exhaust itself looking for a reason to explain and rationalize what is happening, more often than not the body just wants to be held as it moves through its natural release.”
As a mother of three daughters, I’ve had a lot of practice existing within the energy of emotional mood swings. Enough to remind me of my very own nature. I’ve come to the realization that most of the time what causes us to become upset in the moment really has nothing to do with the cause of the original upset. I believe that most of the time we are unclear even with ourselves as to why we feel the emotions that we do.
Emotional uncertainty can cause great discomfort, and while the mind may exhaust itself looking for a reason to explain and rationalize what is happening, more often than not the body just wants to be held as it moves through its natural release. It seeks the embrace of support, the reassurance that everything will be ok. Perhaps needing permission to release the buildup of sadness, frustration, disappointment, anger, fear – whatever it is that is so often beyond our ability to express.
Before jumping in to assist – anchor yourself to the shore!
When we forget to anchor ourselves before jumping in to assist another, we can become swept away with the emotional energy at play. If you jump into the water with someone who is drowning, chances are you too will be pulled under.
It requires a lot of strength and stability to first assess the situation before jumping to the rescue. To take the time to clear through your own feelings, emotions, and desires with the help of your spiritual team who can see the bigger picture and coach you through the experience. We often forget about our Angels, Guardians, Guides, and Ancestors who wait to be of assistance should we turn to them for guidance and quiet our minds enough to listen. This is the gift of freewill.
The first lesson in our Spiritual toolkit is to remember to stop, pause, breathe, and ask for help.
We like to think that we know all the answers and can be so good at convincing ourselves that we know what is correct for others. Eager to fix, to save, to prevent, we often interfere more than we truly help in the long run. Temporary fixes and distractions may work in the moment, but it does not prevent the inevitable. It is only when we travel to the root cause that healing can then work its magic. Our disillusion comes in believing that we can get to the root cause of another’s journey. Imagine someone trying to tell you how you feel, what your experience is, and how you should proceed?
Our heart might be in the right place in offering advice, and we may be responding out of a desire to be compassionate, kind and understanding, but the reality is that for the majority of us – we were never taught how to properly deal with our own emotions.
Most of us didn’t have caregivers that could explain how you were designed to naturally feel the emotional energy of others, how to use this as a means to assess and learn, or how to release what didn’t belong to you. No one was there to teach you about the power and intensity of your own emotions, the implications of aiming them at another, and the rebound effect it would generate back towards you.
There was no earthly coach for most of us to help process through our sensitivities and help support the cultivation of your natural gifts.
Our caregivers were still operating from survival mode.
Chances are your caregivers felt the energy as deeply as you did but were never taught themselves how to feel safe in the world around them. When you are sensitive to your environment and the energy field of others, you are naturally afraid to put down roots until you feel safe enough to do so. We don’t feel safe enough until we learn to trust in our inner guidance system (Higher Self). A process that only the individual can do for themselves.
Until we build the relationship with our inner guidance system (Higher Self), we live from our animalistic body. Our survival body. Hardwired in the automatic response of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. It operates under the basic law of survival where “only the strongest survive.’’
In a desire to survive, we separated from the help of others and convinced ourselves of “each man/woman for themselves”. As a species we withdrew into our minds trying to figure it all out. Attempting to explain, to rationalize, to develop some kind of system of predictability that would help us to understand that when this happens – that happens. It was the primitive beginnings of the greater universal law of cause and effect. Primitive because this version of the law of cause and effect is created within each and every mind of the individual who is still operating from survival mode.
It operates from within its own insanity as it believes that its version of the truth is the correct one. Until we learn to evolve and grow, everything feels deeply personal and we stay trapped in a narrative to our own story that believes we are the victim. It has yet to grow enough to see that it is simply a part of life and undergoing its own experiences. It is not personal, it’s simply evolution.
Time heals all wounds
Time heals all wounds, but who and what determines that time is beyond our control. Only the individual can process through their emotional energy. Only the individual can determine when they are ready to shift their awareness to the Light and ask to be guided through Truth, through a deeper understanding.
Time does heal all wounds. We do move through and past the obstacles of life, pausing when we are ready to glance back, and not just to see how far we have come, but to absorb the wisdom learned through having walked the experience. Nothing helps you grow and mature better than life itself.
Life does not and will not, move us forward until we are strong enough to endure.
Nature does not release the caterpillar from its transformational cocoon until it has undergone the alchemical process within its DNA to transition into the butterfly; even after emerging into a new form the butterfly does not spread its wings and move forward until it has dried off enough to do so. Everything requires time. Everything moves according to nature’s rhythm.
Everything in life teaches us, guides us, prepares us.
When we interfere with another’s life experience we place another obstacle onto their path. If we step in too quickly to prevent another from an incoming experience, we rob them of developing the necessary skills that will empower them to know they are safe enough to put down roots. Robbing them of developing the confidence needed to trust in their inner guidance system (Higher Self), process through their emotions and mental uncertainty, and come to their own conclusion. What is needed is time, not interference. This is what it means to simply “hold space.”
If we are to learn to believe in ourselves, we must first learn to listen to Wisdom.
The truth of the matter is:
We cannot guide someone who is not ready to face the intensity of their own emotions.
We cannot lead someone who is not strong enough yet to walk in their own strength.
We cannot coach someone who is not ready to keep themselves motivated to do the work necessary to change.
We cannot know the reality of another’s experience and how it plays out within their mind, emotions, physical body, or spiritual journey.
We cannot fix, save, rescue, control, or prevent what life inevitably determines is the path we are to take.
What we can do is let Love guide the way
We can work on building faith within ourselves. Finetuning our own inner guidance and deepening our roots into the Earth.
We can share our stories of perseverance. Our own awareness, experiences, and understandings, allowing space for others to come to their own conclusions and ask questions.
We can continue to walk forward along the path of our own true calling.
We can hold the light of love, compassion, grace, and understanding as we trust that all is as it’s meant to be.
Ultimately, life has a greater plan for us all.
Having compassion for ourselves and others as we stumble, fall, rise, and process according to our own natural timing is an aspect of Grace.
Together we are stronger. Not in telling each other what to do, but in walking side-by-side in a deeper awareness of our humanity. Life is not easy. It takes effort and courage for the seed to break open and flower. It takes determination and patience for the caterpillar to transform into a butterfly. It takes enormous faith for the dragonfly to move from the realm of water and into air.
All of life teaches us, guides us, encourages us. May we have the Grace to do the same for one another.
Much love,
Lisa Richard, Inner Alchemy Devotee
Lisa Richard
Owner of Loving Energy Recharge, Lisa is a certified Reiki Master / Teacher, Emotion Code Practitioner, Ancestral Healer / Past Life Reclamation, Lightworker Coach, Human Design / Gene Keys Guide, Intuitive Channel / Oracle Card Reader, and Keynote Speaker.
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