Before you head out the door, spend time with you first. This statement goes so much deeper than the physical act of walking out the door to your home and heading off to the workplace, dropping your children off at school, or rushing off to complete all those errands on your to-do list. This refers to the home within your heart. The sacred temple and place where you truly connect to your higher consciousness and get clear on what you need in order to live life to your full potential.
Potential. That word often causes me to pause and consider, “What is my full potential? What is it that I even want to do?” You see, it is easy for me to allow my time and attention to drift over to other people and to feel the excitement of their dreams. I thrive in the beautiful energy of their excitement and can feel their potential. There is nothing more that I want then to see others succeed, and this is one of the aspects about myself that I love the most. I have a beautiful open heart and I like to share it with many others. The problem is that my home (heart space) often tends to get overcrowded in all the energy and dedication spent nurturing, holding space, and caring for the needs of others around me.
I am aware of this condition as my heart starts to feel the tightness and my body starts to feel the exhaustion. My answer to this dilemma in the past? Well, that’s easy! I would just simply remove myself from my heart space so that there was enough room for the others to not feel so crowded.
Huh. But now where will I go? Where in the world do I belong? Those were the other questions I pondered for the majority of my life, not really feeling like I belonged to any one particular group other than the safe zone of my spouse and children and a few really close friends. So what’s the difference? Why do I feel safe and at ease here, but not out there in the world? Well, the answer is actually quite simple. One cannot exist outside of their own heart. That heart of yours is the sacred dwelling place of your spirit and your spirit needs to be connected to your human in order to be whole. When you crowd your spirit out of your heart by pulling in too many others and focusing all your time and attention on them to the point that it crowds out your spirit then of course you will feel disconnected. You have just banished your poor spirit. Kicking it out into the world where it can do nothing more than wander around feeling lost, rejected, and disconnected from love. And can you blame it? You have after all just closed the door on your heart and replaced it with everyone else except for you.
Ouch! Sometimes facing the truth hurts, but I am grateful for the wakeup call, and I am grateful that the spirit self keeps ringing the doorbell to the heart asking, “Can I come home now? I really miss you and need to be in your presence.”
This can sometimes feel like an uncomfortable place, for how do we choose who to kick out of the heart space in order to make room for self to come back in? How do you kick another out into the cold when you know all too well what that feels like?
Oh wait! It just dawned on me that if perhaps my spirit is ringing the bell to my heart, well isn’t all the other visiting spirits I have contained in my heart perhaps actually trying to get out so that they can also get back to their own humans and plead to be let in? What if by holding onto the energy of everyone else and trying to do so much for them that I am actually hurting their own spiritual growth?
Ouch! Sometimes you feel like you just can’t win. It’s like that old saying “You are damned if you do and damned if you don’t.” This is the healer’s dilemma, and we are all healers. Overcompensating and trying too hard. Allowing the mind to dictate and boss us around, while flooding the body with feelings of lack of worth, blame, regret, anger, jealousy, and the “poor me” song and dance. Meanwhile the poor spirit is just patiently waiting to come back home to the heart.
So friends, before you walk out the door, spend time with you first. Check in with your heart each and every day and ask, “What do I need? What can I do for myself today? Do you need a hug, a cup of tea, to call a friend, a walk outdoors?” It doesn’t have to be a big request, but it is a request from your spirit so please honour it. Please spend the time nurturing yourself and caring for all those details that you so lovingly poor into others. Please spend the time filling up your heart space with your spirit’s essence that it can grow larger and shine its beautiful light out into the world.
We forget that we are energy Beings and our energy is felt in the aura that surrounds the body. When you are angry, sad, or frustrated you can guarantee that other’s feel that energy. I’m sure you have felt it in others. So what if we all just spent a little more time coming home to self, clearing out all the other energies, sending them back home to be with their own humans, closing the door to allow just our beautiful spirit time to replenish, refresh, and share how it is doing?
I have learned to develop the most beautiful relationship with my spiritual self, nurturing her needs, playing the fun game of asking “What do you need today?” and feeling the heart swell when I listen and acknowledge its needs by carrying out the action step. The feeling in the heart is so contagious, that I find the corners of my mouth lift up in a beautiful smile. I feel a lightness in my body, and new energy pour into my entire being. It is a state of what I can only describe as bliss.
Want to know something that makes me grin even deeper as if it is a secret? When I listen to my spirit, man does she ever accomplish some amazing things for others, and boy does that ever feel good!
Lisa is the owner of Loving Energy Recharge, a Level 3 Reiki Master, Emotion Code Practitioner, Human Design Guide, and Business/Life Coach.
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